Positive Self-Talk

As I reflect on the work I want to do with others, maintaining and living the vision of positive self-talk is still hard work.  I started beReal three weeks ago and continue to look for ways to promote and advertise my business.  I have been successful in acquiring educational contracts in school districts, but working hard to build an individual clientele. 

Three weeks ago I added a new member to my family, Lena.  She is a beautiful, active, smart and loving dog.  We have found each other in this crazy world and now we are trying to grow together.  When I am faced with challenges in my life, I try to remember the words of Jerry Gillis, “Stop asking what time it is and start asking what this time is for.”  It is challenging owning a dog.  Of course, I added it to my life while trying to raise teenagers and start a business. 

I recently started running again.  Lena was an intentional addition to support me in my running activity.  However, she is untrained.  Therefore, going for a run can be frustrating, when it is supposed to be energizing.  I spent the first three miles thinking, “Why am I doing this?”  My knees hurt from gravity, my hips ached from the running leash position around my waist and my arms hurt from pulling Lena away from her new potential friends (like ducks and squirrels).  I almost called my daughter to pick me up. 

During mile three, I continued to walk and check in with my mind and body.  Because of an injury last fall, I am very conscious of what my body wants/needs.  I have stopped the voice of “you need to gut it out and finish” and am trying to listen to “Just because the first three miles didn’t go well, there is an opportunity with the last two miles.” And it worked.  My body stopped hurting and Lena was cooperative as I ran the last two miles.  Success!!!

“I was caught between who they told me I was and who I truly am.  I am making my way from one to the other. And the way is called brave.”  ~ S.C Lourie


Welcome to beReal!!!

Welcome to beReal!!!  I am excited about my new venture and look forward to beginning a journey with you.

Several years ago, I decided to get a masters degree in counseling and psychology.  A former student, that spent hours in my classroom needing assistance in her life, rather than just math and sports, prompted this decision.  I felt unprepared to aid this student in her life challenges and found a way to learn more.  Since then, I have used these skills to support a variety of colleagues, friends and myself through life’s transitions and challenges. 

And now I want to support you.  Here is how I describe the work we will do together: 

A coach supports a learner or client in achieving a specific personal or professional goal. 

A cognitive coach helps people understand and resolve personal issues by focusing on how one thinks, with the belief that such thought processes affect the way in which we behave.

Other labels that might be familiar to you are: life coach, counselor, and/or psychologist. The goal of our work together is to establish a relationship so you can explore new ideas, gain perspective on life’s challenges and develop a positive inner voice. Through conversation, questioning and movement, I promote healthy mental, emotional and physical practices.  I want to work specifically with mothers and school personnel because, in my experience as both, there is a need.  Many educators and parents do not seek outside individual care because they spend most of their time devoted to others.  My goal is to provide space for our most life-giving and dedicated humans to increase happiness, build self-worth and sustain a strength-oriented perception to attain life's goals.

“Like wildflowers; you must allow yourself to grow in all the places people never thought you would.”  E.V.